But I can tell you I know plenty of survivors who married and have only had sex with their husbands and no one else.
Of the three relationships I had after my witness marriage broke up all turned out to be sexual abuse victims. It wasn't fidelity that was the problem but lack of intimacy... that I a male could be trusted. I asked one , my lover at the time who had a 12 year old daughter Do you trust me with your daughter? She said yes So I said why don't you trust me She said I can't She seemed determined to sabotage our relationship to make me fit into her concept that males are abusers..... She played control games re her former lovers and other games related to her self esteem. She would not see a counselor with me. Later after I broke up with her for my own emotional wellbeing and moved out.... she entered a relationship with a man who was more screwed up than her..... was now on the receiving end.... finally sought counseling ....broke up with him and has now had a relationship with another man for three years. She is still receiving counseling. I have spoken to her recently and she now tells me what a bitch she was when she was with me. Something she would never ever have admitted before.. I'm happy for her I hope the cycle of abuse has finally been broken. I say cycle because I was also the victim of her fathers abuse not personally but through the damage he did to his little girl. The woman I loved. I hate sexual abuse.